#YouAintNoMuslimBro

It's funny how the very same muslims that were calling out people for their mistakes, that don't adhere to Islam, saying "you ain't no Muslim bro" are now patiently waiting for 2015 to become 2016.

Now, I would like to let everyone know that as muslims we don't follow the Gregorian calendar, nor do we celebrate the new years... We only have 2 annual celebrations: Eid Al-Adha  & Eid Al-Fitr.  As a matter of fact in the Hijri Calendar, we have an Islamic New Year that actually begins the 1st of the HOLY MONTH OF MUHARRAM.  You see the big difference?  Well I hope so!  It's only hypocritical of a muslim to not celebrate 'christmas' yet turn around and celebrate the 'new years'.  Those 2 celebrations are 1. Un-Islamic 2. Pagan holidays & 3. Make you fall out of the fold of Islam.  Sad but true... And we all know the Truth hurts.

So the next time you hear a muslim making takfir* on a fellow muslim, know that they themselves do things that take themselves out of the fold of Islam.  As the saying goes "It takes one to know one".

The morale of the story is don't be so quick to judge, and look at yourself first.  Yes we follow the Gregorian calendar in the Western society but it doesn't mean we should celebrate the non-Muslim holidays.


This is something to think about ;)

*Taking one out of the fold of Islam

Take Care & InshaAllah Khair

Duni

Oh January!

So much has happened in 2014 & 2015... This just makes 2016 more promising.  Now don't get me wrong I don't celebrate the 'New Year' for religious reasons however I will definitely take this opportunity to start fresh and do good for myself.  Looking back in 2014, I got divorced Alhamdulillah.  Got my first public job as a niqabi.  In 2015, I struggled starting from the bottom striving to work my way up... and I'm still striving.  I have created this "I'm my own boss" mindset, I think and act like it too.  Now I'm married to a wonderful man in KSA.  Now 2016 is literally on it's way and all I just have to do is dot my 'I's and cross my 'T's before I get my visa for KSA.

This month/ upcoming year will be a busy as well as physically & emotionally stressful month.  It all comes down to time management and sheer FOCUS.

This January I do have quite a lot of plans.  One, is to finish my Hijama Practitioner Certification.  I'm literally giving myself the entire month to finish the program once and for all, graduate and begin my own holistic therapy business.

Ya, I'm trying to be my own boss.  Mainly because I desperately hate my current job. Alhamdulillah ala kulfi hal and I pray Allah Subhana wa Ta'Ala makes it easy for me.

Secondly, I'm fat and unhealthy.  I'm not even going to be nice about it.  It's the truth and my reality.  I know I've posted about this months ago but lets just face it... I didn't have any motivation to follow.  LOL I really hope with the whole marriage thingy that I find my motivation and stick to it like glue.

The solution is simple, eat healthily and exercise.  The problem is, as much as I love health and fitness, I'm incredibly lazy lol.  But no worries I've simplified the task at hand, I have found on Pinterest a lot of those "30 Day Challenges".  I've chosen the "30 Day Squat, Thigh & Leg Lifts Challenges" with 15 mins cardio. LOL I really only need cardio but I do want to challenge myself and become nicely tones.  I'm going on a plant-based diet.  I know, it's a beautiful way of eating.  Of course I'm doing it for vanity!  I don't see anything wrong with eating meat but just not in high quantities.  Besides, according to the Sunnah, we should only eat meat twice a week maximum.  I actually thrive of my fruits and veggies, I feel fresh and more energized anyways.

Thirdly,  I have to buy my sewing patterns online.  I know it sounds random but it's actually not.  It's part of my dream to also have my own clothing and lingerie line.  And my progress will be posted inshaAllah in my second blog.  It's obviously a slow process but slowly and surely the cream usually rises to the top.  I'm the cream and I will get to the top by the Will of Allah.

Last but not the least, my arabic!  I've recently purchased my arabic course from Indigo! but I will discuss this in more details in a later post inshaAllah.  But the sole purpose to learning this is because it's my responsibility as a muslim.  More importantly, I would like to be able to speak to my In-laws.

So that's about it for now...

Take Care & InshaAllah Khair

Duni

Preparations for Departure

Whenever there's a drastic change in my life, I tend to get stressed out and have a series of panic as well as anxiety attacks.  In the special case of me, emmigrating the country, to InshaAllah live in KSA, presents a stress at a whole new level: There's no panic, no anxiety yet.  It's not so much about the things I have to bring, it is the paper work that needs to be done.  I don't understand why but when I comes to doing paper work, I get stressed.  Maybe it is because I fear making a mistake and I have to start all over again OR that mistake will be taken out of context and I will be viewed as a fraud. LOL.  Essentially if the paper work doesn't go through, my world will crumble.

I've already decided where my things will go.  It's very simple: My friends will get the bulk of my things & the rest will be given away. 

All I want to keep safe are my books.  I can't seem to detach myself from them.  What I take with me is very simple: my prayer mat, sewing machine & materials, my nice clothes, jewelry, BASIC hair & makeup essential and face products, running shoes, yoga mat and foam roller.  I could pack everything up right now and I'll be done in 2 to 3 suitcases.  I'm literally looking around my room at things I can live without.  It's amazing how I can just let go of the majority of my possessions without looking back.  Starting a new life means fresh start and new everything.

But what about me?  I've made decisions for the materialistic side of me... What about myself as a person?  I need a new look!  I need to whip myself back in shape.  A new begin calls for a new me, right? ABSOLUTELY!  I need to utilize my exercise equipment to its fullest before I leave.  Now there are many different diets I could do in order to lose weight fast for example Juicing.  Juicing is quick and effective and healthy if you consume the right amount of juice.  But I'm not about to do juicing because I recently just given away my juicer to a Sister in need.  So I will eat health plant-based foods and lose what ever I can from that inshaAllah.  I can alway do juicing in KSA lol.

I have a lot of things I need to do, like finish my Hijama Practitioner Course and get my certification, Learn basics of Arabic so that I can have a decent conversation with my mother in law.  So now I have a very busy schedule that I need to make and stick too.  It's sounds easy but in actuality it is not. Let's keep in mind that I will still be work here in Canada until my employers fire me.  Yes, I want them to fire me off because it's easier that way for me.  I work well under pressure and if I'm at home all day I can focus on my health objectives, packing, praying and learning.  Ya ya I know I need money but Allah is Al-Rizaq (The Provider) and besides I'm married.  I just want to help out and make things easier on myself and my new family.

Take Care & InshaAllah Khair

Duni

So I'm Married Now?

After my mysterious disappearance for the past couple of months I am now reappearing with utmost vim and vigour!!!

I have been for sometime now looking for a special someone to call my own in order to start a loving family with Allah's grace.  So it just happened.  Like that.  I met someone.  BAM! I'm married.

I can't even begin to tell you how it happened because you will all think I'm crazy. Insane. Desperate. But the truth is, when it feels right and all doubts are lifted... It is right.  So since you are all interested in knowing what really went down I will tell you.  In a nutshell it's very simple, after a long search, I final meet a decent man with immaculate manners and maturity MashaAllah.  He got me in touch with his sisters and I spoke with the sisters to get info on him and vice versa.  I essentially build a relationship with the sisters and a week later we were married.


YES JUST LIKE THAT!


I married a Saudi Arabian man.  Not a national.  Someone born and raised in KSA with the whole cultural & religious values package deal! MashaAllah, like an upgraded version of a Saudi National lol. I really hit jackpot with this guy! Alhamdulillah.  Wallah he is my dream man.

I haven't told anyone because I honestly don't want to hear all the negativity.  Here in Canada, STRAIGHT UP people don't want to see you happy! Now I don't personally care about the haters because I will cut them off... However, the Hasad (hatred) and the Aayn (envy) is very real in muslim communities in Canada.  No one wants to see you going good.  They don't want to see you happy or even have the thought of you being happier than them.  People here (especially in Toronto) thrive off of the misery of others.  It's unreal.  So, I'm keeping it a secret until I'm ready to leave inshaAllah.  That way I will avoid all haters and be like "BYE FELICIA!" Hahahaha

But honestly, your private life should be kept private.  Even though you may be super excited and happy to the point you want to shout out loud on the highest mountain.  Even the people you may have thought were your friends will turn on you and become your rival.  Trust me, I know first hand through previous experiences.  Know the difference between someone that is truly concerned and someone throwing shade.

"Everyone wants to see you doing good but never better than them."

Keep your happiness to yourself and you will go very far in life.  My true and real friends are happy for me and have expressed their real concerns.  Alhamdulillah, this is from Allah.  Regardless of anything, I made my Istikahara and Allah Subhana wa Ta'Ala made it easy for me.

I pray Allah helps everyone find a suitable 

spouse that will bring happiness to their lives.

Ameen.

Take Care & InshaAllah Khair

Duni